Do we have a good relationship with someone if our sole focus is to not screw up around them? What if this is magnified by not spending much time with them, so we don’t know what pleases or displeases them? How do you have a healthy relationship with that person? You cannot, but this is how the majority of us spend our lives in relationship with God. We are fearful of screwing up around someone whos character we don’t know.
A way to start from a book I’ve been reading on how to know of Him:
God is patient, and He is kind. He does not envy, He does not boast, He is not proud. God does not dishonor others, He is not self-seeking, He is not easily angered, He keeps no record of wrongs. God does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. HE always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. God never fails.
Adapted from 1 Corinthians 13, based on “Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” (1 John 4:8)